Please Help Me With a Project.
I am taking a third year English class at SFU, and I'm analyzing Lady Mary Wortley Montagu's two poems "The Mistress" and "The Lover." The poems describe the ideal man and woman in the eighteenth century, according to Montagu.
I have translated the characteristics Montagu describes in the poem and turned them into a kind of survey.
I would greatly appreciate anyone and everyone that can to take a moment and fill it out.
Beside each characteristic please indicate in a scale from 0-5 whether this characteristic is something that is important for a partner to posses in order for you to interested in them. 0 means you find the characteristic completely irrelevant, and 5 means you think that characteristic is essential. If you put something as "zero" perhaps you could also add why you feel this characteristic is no longer relevant, or if there's a characteristic that seems to have replaced it.
If you are straight or gay, fill out the half of the survey for what gender you are most attracted to, if you are bi, you can either pick a half or fill out both.
At the end of the characteristics, I have a brief stats section. Please only put as much information down as you are comfortable with. Although this will not be completely anonymous because I know the LJ you are responding from, the results in my essay will compile this information anonymously.
Finally, please feel free to cross post this anywhere else you feel it may be relevant, even in your own journals but please, please tell me you have done so so that I can collect the results.
[ ] She possess a certain something that keeps you interested in the prospect longer than one evening.
[ ] She is a good kisser
[ ] She has a beautiful face
[ ] She has an intriguing, beautiful or interesting mind
[ ] She enjoys being a flirt and or acting flirty.
[ ] She is neither too quick nor too long in consenting to sex.
[ ] She likes playing hard to get, but just long enough to peak interest.
[ ] She likes playing hard to get, but for an extended time, always nearly losing you but always drawing you back. .
[ ] Ultimately she allows you to win the game.
[ ] Her being a virgin
[ ] Being in a mutually monogamous relationship.
[ ] If monogamous, then you not getting jealous or suspicious that she might become unfaithful.
[ ] You having total conviction in the love bond
[ ] She being so intensely in love with you to the point that they could live for you, and die with you.
[ ] She keeps the relationship fresh by still flirting, endlessly tells you she miss you, she still has “butterflies” in the stomach when you meet.
[ ] She is discreet and keeps the relationship from public knowledge.
[ ] She is a good confidante for your secrets and worries.
[ ] He has common sense and a kind personality in equal portions.
[ ] He places worth on his own pleasure, but also ensures the woman is well satisfied.
[ ] He doesn’t boast.
[ ] He isn’t lewd.
[ ] He’s never strict.
[ ] He’s not vain.
[ ] You are the dominant force over him, though not to the point of cruelty.
[ ] In public he doesn’t laugh when he has nothing to say
[ ] Outwardly he is friendly and talks to everyone
[ ] While still being faithful to only yourself.
[ ] In public is polite and doesn’t give away the true nature of your relationship.
[ ] In public he is correctly respectful to you, not being coy or exaggerated.
[ ] In private, you both become equals.
[ ] He is one part lover to an equal part friend.
[ ] He is a good confidante,
[ ] a kind listener,
[ ] and good at giving advice.
[ ] He protects you from danger.
[ ] He protects you from being taken advantage of.
Current city, Province/territory/State:
Place/culture raised in (if different from above):
Number of relationships [however you define them]:
Do you have any familiarity with eighteenth century literature? yes/no [not required]: